We often define age unfairly, clouding the truth with broad generalizations like all and every, and there are far too many pre-conceived notions about the preferences and behavior of people based on their age. I was very young when I opened my own nursing relationship; would things have gone differently if I had been told that I was too young to know what I desired, or too young to make such an important commitment? And what would have happened if I had actually begun to own that? I would have missed my opportunity to share one of the most beautiful experiences I have ever known as a woman. It seems that older people often face the same challenges, are expected to be void of feelings and no longer attuned to their own sexuality and sensual needs.
While writing my latest book, which focuses on meeting others in the adult nursing community and forming a healthy relationship, I did a lot of research, and uncovered some fascinating data. Studies show that, when asked, 91% of single people over the age of 70 rated sex as "very important" to their relationships as compared to 40% of their younger counterparts. (Take that, society! ;))
I am married to an older man, and there have been times when S and I have faced obstacles in our relationship because of the difference in our age. They aren't our obstacles. I am very comfortable and very content with him. He is strong and determined, a passionate realist, and very much a gentleman. He treats me like a lady, opens my car door for me and brings me flowers just because he loves me. We complement one another perfectly. He is my safe haven.
And because I am married to an older man, and we happen to enjoy the uniquely exquisite practice of suckling, I also nurse an older man; it is an act that comes very naturally to me, and at night, when we are lying together, under the tranquil cover of night, I become his safe haven, my breasts are his comforting respite, a place to rest his head, a place that allows him to shed the tough exterior that society expects him to wear and be cared for in a way that only I can do.
Recently, I received a couple of wonderful messages from a 67-year-old gentleman who once shared an intimate ANR with a lactating woman, and is actively seeking a nursing relationship once more, and because he wrote so openly about a misunderstood subject that is considered taboo by so many, I decided to share parts of his letters with you, and answer a few questions about age and nursing.
I would like to be able to develop that type of relationship again and before I stumbled across your site, I thought that maybe I was just a bit off center, and now I find there are others that see the value and pleasure in such a natural closeness and sharing. I desire that again, but at my age and in society's narrow views on some subjects, I really don't know how to go about finding a woman that is willing and enjoys it as much as I do.
How do I approach a woman respectfully with the subject? How do I find the special person that wants to share that part of them. I must be clear, I don’t want a wet nurse, but someone who wants a loving and kind relationship and feels as I do. Most of the lactating women that I know are so much younger than I am that I am afraid to even mention my desires.
In so many ways, the ANR is very much like a more traditional relationship, one based on chemistry, compatibility, honesty, and mutual respect, and finding that perfect partner can be difficult, whether you hope to nurse or not. And I agree. Society doesn't always help the situation; it is so quick to label and set specific classification molds that people are expected to simply fit comfortably in to. And let's be honest--adult nursers just haven't found acceptance, or been able to break free of those confining stereotypes and presumed judgments, regardless of age.
We really are out there. It just takes a bit of time to find us.
Many healthy long-term nursing relationships arise from a strong foundation relationship in which two people open lines of communication about the lifestyle, and find a comfortable middle ground that is mutually satisfying. But if you are looking for a partner who already understands and appreciates the world of ANR, shares your ideals and basic principles regarding the lifestyle, and is prepared to nurse, your best option is to visit various online communities and dating sites geared toward adult nursing where you will be free to discuss your desires in an open, honest, and direct way, with like-minded people. It is often very comforting to surround yourself with people who "get it", and will value your opinion on the adult nursing experience. Many of them are actively seeking a nursing partner, too.
When meeting a potential nursing partner, the initial encounter isn't really so much a matter of age, but, rather a question of compatibility. For years, scientists have been trying to discover the reasons for physical attraction. Is it a biological stamp imprinted on the human psyche? Do pheromones play a role in chemistry? There are no solid answers to these timeless questions; for now, attraction remains one of life's sweetest mysteries. We are simply attracted to the people we find most appealing; some people prefer an older partner, others do not. Opening any new relationship can be scary, and it takes a lot of courage to present yourself into a circumstance that exposes so much vulnerability, but you never know what might happen if you never try.
Of course, physical attraction, affection, and love are not the only boundless aspects of adult nursing. It is important to remember that lactation holds no age limitations, either. We often associate breast milk production with youth when, in reality, no matter her stage of life, very little can hinder a woman's natural ability to lactate. There are many women who enjoy the loveliness of lactation well into their 50s and 60s, choosing to induce years after the onset of menopause, and are in search of their perfect partner, too.
Remember, all love, even the adulation of nursing, is timeless, it spans generations and transcends all limitations and boundaries--and it is out there, waiting for you.
Thank you to everyone who has shared their inspiring stories with me. :) As you travel the paths of your personal journey, I wish you all the best.
Take care, and have a wonderful Wednesday!